Welcome to X-Cart Matt! Please start by reading the forum rules, and posting your X-Cart version in your signature (Edit profile, enter version, enter help desk password, click the 'Always attach my signature:' box, save):
http://forum.x-cart.com/viewtopic.php?t=6489
Next, try the manual, found here:
http://www.x-cart.com/manuals.html
For your particular question, there is a very detailed section on e-mail notifications.
If you still have questions after reading the manual, please search the forum first, as many of the most common questions have been answered multiple times. If you still can't find the answer, post a question. Thanks!