Extreme newby, needing advice on changing template
 

Wanting to make the cart part of my site(looks), not my site becoming part of the carts look....any advice or manuals or books or any help???

Read the manual, read the forum, use Webmaster Mode and if all else fails, post a question :)

manual? where can i find a manual? that would be great

http://www.x-cart.com/xcart_manual/compiled/X-Cart_4xx_manual.pdf

There is also a copy in your file area.